Asma bint Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنها): Role model for women

Who was Asma Bint Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنها)?

Asma (رضي الله عنها) was the daughter of Abu Bakr. The moment, the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) called, Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) converted to Islam along with his entire family, except for his wife Qutaila and his son Abdur Rahman. Qutaila was the mother of Asma. Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) divorced her and separated from his son.

What Asma (رضي الله عنه) replied when Father of Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) came to her home?

When Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنها) left for Madinah with the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), he took along almost all the money he possessed. when Abu Bakr’s (رضي الله عنها) father Abu Quhafa, who was blind, came to know of this, he came to Abu Bakr’s (رضي الله عنه) house and said to Asma,

”This man has placed you in a bad position. He has deprived you of himself and of the property.” At this, Asma went inside, collected some stones and put them in a bag, which she brought to her blind grandfather saying, ”This is what he has left.” ”There is no blame if he has left this for you,” said the old man.


قَالَ رَبِّ ٱشْرَحْ لِى صَدْرِى

[Moses] said, “My Lord, expand for me my breast [with assurance] (Ta Ha 20:25)

وَيَسِّرْ لِىٓ أَمْرِى

And ease for me my task (Ta Ha 20:26)

وَٱحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِّن لِّسَانِى

And untie the knot from my tongue (Ta Ha 20:27)

يَفْقَهُوا۟ قَوْلِى

That they may understand my speech. (Ta Ha 20:28)

The Lady of Two Girdles (Zat al-Nitaqain)

While migrating to Madinah, the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنها) stayed in the cave of Thawr for three days. The Makkans were looking them all over to capture and kill them. But they could not find them anywhere. Read more: Who was Khadija Bint Khuwaylid and What Role She Played for Islam?

In the end, the Makkans felt sure that both had gone beyond the bounds of Makkah and they stopped searching. Once they came close to the cave, but found it unliveable and went back thinking nobody would dare to go inside.

In the morning, Abu Jahl went to Asma and asked her about Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنها), but she remained silent. This so enraged Abu Jahl that he slapped her so hard that her earrings fell off her ears. But she stood firm and did not tell anything to Abu Jahl. Read: Umm-e-Habiba (رضي الله عنها) Wife of Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم)

During these three days, Abdullah and Asma helped the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنها). Asma prepared food and secretly brought it to the cave. On the day of departure from the cave to Madinah, Asma prepared the provisions for the long journey and brought them to the cave, but she forgot to bring a ribbon to tie them.

She was wearing a girdle around her waist, which she tore into two and used one part to tie up the provision. She was then called Zat al-Nitaqain, the ‘Lady of the Two Girdles‘. Read: Maymunah (رضي الله عنها) Wife of Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and the One Who Devoted Herself for Islam


O Allah, you are the most forgiving, You love forgiving, therefore, forgive me.

Good Ties and Relationship with Mother Even if She was a Polytheist (Non-Muslim)

Asma’s mother did not accept Islam. It is reported in Bukhari that once Asma asked the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), ‘

My mother came willingly to me. Should I keep good ties with her?

The Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) replied,

‘Yes, keep good ties with your mother.’

Asma (رضي الله عنها) was a sincere Muslim

Asma (رضي الله عنها) was a devout Muslim. She was married to Zubayr Bin Al-Awwam, the Prophet’s cousin and the son of Saffiyah, the Prophet’s aunt. Asma’s husband had also converted to Islam and was a staunch follower of a Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم).

In the beginning, married life of Asma (رضي الله عنها) was very difficult in Madinah. Her husband not being well off, only had a camel and a horse. Asma (رضي الله عنها) used to do all the household chores as well as looking after Zubayr’s horse. She fulfilled all her responsibilities towards her husband. Read more: History and Importance of Prophet’s (Peace Be Upon Him) First Visit to Taif


اعْدِلُواْ هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَى وَاتَّقُواْ اللّهَ إِنَّ اللّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ

Be just: this is closest to being God-conscious. And remain conscious of God: verily, God is aware of all that you do.(Al Ma’idah 5:8)

وَعَدَ اللّٰهُ الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوۡا وَعَمِلُوا الصّٰلِحٰتِ​ ۙ لَهُمۡ مَّغۡفِرَةٌ وَّاَجۡرٌ عَظِيۡمٌ

Allah has promised those who believe and do righteous deeds forgiveness from sins and a great reward. (Al Ma’idah 5:9)

A Proud Mother

Asma (رضي الله عنها) had a son whose name was Abdullah ibn Zubayr, His father was the famous Zubair Bin Al-Awwam, a prominent companion of the Prophet of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم).

At the time of the Umayyad ruler, Marwan, Abdullah ibn Zubayr was ruling over much of Hijaz, which included Makkah. Marwan sent Hajjaj ibn Yusuf to lay siege to Makkah. But Abdullah fought Hajjaj and never allowed himself to yield to him. Read: 5 Attempts to Steal the Body of Prophet (P.B.U.H) from Madinah

A day before he was killed and crucified by Hajjaj, he came to his mother Asma (رضي الله عنها) who said, ”If you have realized you are right and are calling for the truth, you had better go on… Do not surrender your neck to Umayyad… OOff you go and seek Allah’s help.” 

After crucifying Abdullah, Hajjaj ibn Yusuf came to Asma (رضي الله عنها) and asked, ‘How did I punish your son Asma?” She replied,” You spoiled his life, but he spoiled your next life.”

Asma died in Makkah shortly after the death of her son Abdullah. Read: The First Murder in Islamic History


We return (from our journey); we beg forgiveness (from Allah); we worship (him); we praise our Lord.

Asma Bint Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنها) died on 28 Jammat-e-Thani 73 Hijri.

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